I want to describe my husband and myself. This will make it easier to see how the two of us parent and why this has been such a struggle to me as a parent. My hubby sees the world as a win-lose situation. He stands for competition, sports, strategy, and and lacks a creative/artistic side...but very book smart. Then, there is me. I am creative, loves to read, finds competition to be a waste of time, enjoys doing things that are hands-on, etc. My son is very much like me. He has a wonderful imagination (Loves to pretend), creative when he makes up stories, very intellectual about topics he very much enjoys (like animals), and super sensitive like me. He enjoys playing sports if it is with Mommy, primarly because I make it fun and not competitive. However, he talks about playing with Daddy when he gets bigger. His self-esteem is low at times especially in larger groups or new groups. Socially, he has grown, but gravitates toward the girl groups. He makes comments about the boys being mean to eachother at school, like kicking each other's feets and smacking their fists together. He is not very aggressive (unless you put him in that situation). He is loving, sweet, and senstive. That is how his preschool teachers described him.
My struggles have been his overload of imagination at age 4 1/2. He loves to be an animal and tends to be a different one everyday. I only began to think it was a "problem" because of my circle of friends and hubby. I always thought it was normal and a part of a preschooler's development. I felt uncomfortable with making him stop pretending and killing his "spirit", what makes my son who he is.
Because I don't get magazines in the mail (except the scrapbooking magazine my mother got me for xmas), I don't read much unless I go looking for it. So, I went looking. I had briefly read an article in Parents magazine months back at the doctor's office and went searching for it. It was exactly what I needed to read and share.
First, I took a quiz to find out what kind of intellegince my son has....this is what it told me:
Your Child's Strength Is Creative Intelligence Your little one has an aptitude for the creative arts, which can include music, visual art, or drama. His strongest assets may be one or all of the following: verbal skills (reading, writing, and telling jokes); musical skills (repeating tongue-twisters, reciting rhymes, and singing songs); or visual aptitude (coloring, painting pictures, imagining vivid images). The wonderful imagination that accompanies a child with high creative intelligence can manifest itself in an imaginary friend or delight in telling stories. And good news for parents: Children with Creative Intelligence can usually stay perfectly entertained when left on their own.
Then, I proceeded with my search...since this began to make me feel better. I have to say finding this type of information is not easy. I have failed in my attempts, so if anyone has read an article or has ideas for me please comment! :)
My little man is a Moose :)
Did you know that Tator Tots make great animal hats?