That means all of you....but ESPECIALLY my educator friends this one is for you.......
*please disregard the cussing...I am in a cussing mood today. Very unusual for me. But it is one of those days and the children can't read, so I am good*
I still consider myself an educator. I know I have been home now going on 3 years, but it is part of who I am. I spent 6 years becoming one, 6 years being one.....so that is a lot of who I am. I taught 6 years in special education (3 in high school and 3 in middle school).
My hubby is also an educator...A damn good one at that. He is going on like 9 years teaching. One in special education in Maryland and 8 in Loudoun County as a 4th grade teacher. People...he is good (sorry gotta do some bragging on hubby...I am so proud of him).
Enough background stuff cuz most of you know me by now. I don't hide much about me.
So, my kindergartner came home with a form from the school stating that they would like to see us for a conference.
This is good because we like to be informed. I like information and to be involved as MUCH as possible.
But on the stupid ass form it has 3 places for the teacher/parent to check mark.
One states: Your child is doing well. We do not need to conference at this time.
Two states: I have some concerns about your child's progress. We would like to schedule a conference. (or some shit like that)
Third states: This one states something about the parent requesting a conference even if it is not required by the teacher...blah blah blah.
So....the second one is marked by his teacher.
As a parent of ANY background....tell me your reaction. How do/would you feel???
As for us.....Our hearts sank. The thoughts flooding our brains.....
What could be he doing?
Is this behavior? Is he withdrawing? Is he being shy? Is he not listening? Not following directions? Not doing what he is supposed to be doing? Not up to "par" with the other kids or the standards??
Is this mandatory for all kindergartners' parents? (If not it should be anyway regardless of their "time" and how they are doing. ALL parents should be see even if they are doing well.)
Breathe Lisha....breathe...it could be "nothing" big .
It could be that they know we are high maintenance parents. We are the ones emailing 24/7, writing notes, you know the ones "we" can't stand as educators. We are hard on Noah and expect him to do well in school.
So if there is some major issue, I should have been contacted BEFORE conferences I would imagine.
His papers all come back with stars, good interim report, good comments about his knowing his sight words., blah blah blah....
The main issue here is me. Can you tell??
I know I am being hard on myself. But why is it so hard to be an educator/parent?
I guess if you were a pediatrician and took your kids to another pediatrician you would expect them to do things are thorough as you do in your examinations, or if you were a bus driver and took the bus from point A to point B you would expect the same if not better trip as a passenger...etc. etc......
So teacher friends how can I do this and still make sure the teacher sees my respect for her? Because I do. She is excellent and Noah has learned SO much already! He already knows close to 50 sight words and is starting to read. I am so proud of him and what he is accomplishing.
I guess this is why I am so careful with "forms" and approaching parents because this is my WORST nightmare for parents to go through. The uncertainty is enough to drive you crazy!
Enough venting. This parenting thing just gets harder and harder. It was so easy when they were babies. What the hell does them turning into teenagers mean for me?? Lol